Personal Growth allows a person to do the Impossible
We all seek the powerful break through technique. We want to change to become more effective and powerful. The promise of personal growth is being able to do what is currently impossible.
The tools have to a a complete system.
Just listing our passions is not enough anymore. Recording our every actions goes so far.
Without the tools, the impossible stays impossible. The tools of personal growth make is easier but the process is still hard and takes time.
There is a cost to personal growth, either emotional, time, or financial. But in the end, one is able to do and have what was not possible before.
Without this knowledge one will be unrealistic and unsuccessful.
Without the use of any tools, life will cause personal growth, but only if life is fully experienced. We have a tendency to numb ourselves, and NOT experience life during painful episodes. We need tools to show us that we are off track and to help us move in the direction we wanted. Without the personal growth tools, the self is invisible and can't be navigated. Sometimes life is too painful to experienced and we need a sedative to back away. But at some point something needs to bring us back to reality.
A fundamental repetative question in life will be: Is this a growth moment or should I resist it?
Personal growth is there to help us to experience what we refused to experience and missed the lesson that was to help us.
The main question is, will this teach me what I need to learn or not. But in the heat of the moment, the pain will not allow such clear thinking. There is survival value to being numb as in taking a sedative. If we were burnt by fire but never allowed our self to experience the pain, we would get burnt again. The painful experience is a learning experience. But pain is not specific in the lesson that it is trying to impart.
The inability to feel any pain is an example of no growth happening. No matter what is chosen, if life is fully experienced, personal growth will happen. Sometimes it can be pleasant and sometimes it is painful. Natural growth will happen unless it is blocked.
Just as pain and the compulsive avoidance of pain can prevent personal growth from happening, pleasure and the compulive choice of pleasure can distract from the lesson that the present moment has.
Purposeful personal growth helps the process that nature has intented.
The only difference is that sometimes you choose when the growth occurs, not your unhealthy compulsions.
How many personal growth workshops have you tried? How many were free?
A simple search would show that the Internet is full of sites with free help, articles, books, retreats, blogs, classes for personal growth.
Most will deal with the surface issues.
It is only when an intense emotion needs to be dealt with and is blinding us to the truth that we see the value.
At that point it becomes clear that what is needed most is something that is available all the time and will go to as much depth as possible.
The fundamental clarification that we want is:
How to Live Life
And of course for each person, it is different. What is the same is that we all see something in from of us that needs dealing with.Sometimes we are confident in the choices we will make and at other times we are not. For some of us, after a long self discovery search we have seen that the answers lie within the self. But we need help, we need help to get to these answers and to then be prepared for life.
In the end what we wanted to do will be done. But "what is wanted" is determined after the fact. Before the fact, opposing desires will obscure the path ahead.
What personal growth does is to clarify the path ahead, simplify things and doing that will look as if we have powers that we did not have before.
The hell which we have created and which in hind sight was under our control, will be created again unless we grow. That is where personal growth comes in.